Best of DFB: Nikki Silvestri on Seeds of Connection, Integration and Discernment as Tools, and Welcoming Your Shadow Back Home [episode 102]

In this Best of DFB, we revisit Nikki Silvestri. Nikki is a new Mama and speaker with equal parts vulnerability and razor-sharp analysis. She is the Founder of Soil and Shadow and working to create system change while improving relationships between communities. In this conversation we get into:

• • Why our good ideas don’t flourish because we don’t know how to work well together

• • How your change-making work can reflect abundance and not scarcity

• • How the process of shadow work makes you face your own worst nightmares

• • How once your life has changed you realize there isn’t that much to be afraid of

• • What it takes to ask yourself new questions

• • How the seed of shadow work is allowing opposites to exist simultaneously that seem irreconcilable

• • Why we are obsessed with reconciliation as a society

• • Why suffering is a part of life and how you have to accept it as such

• • Why connection is the seed of everything, and how it creates possibilities that didn’t exist before

• • How boundaries enable you to do your own work

• • How to welcome the shadow parts of yourself back home

• • How shadow work makes you a better leader by allowing you to see all of yourself

• • Why we need to speak to people in a language they understand when approaching shadow work

• • How anything you are attracted to or repulsed by is your shadow at play

• • How you can find yourself in the projection of your shadow

• • Why learning to properly integrate shadow work is so important

• • Discernment is how to stay on the good side of shadow work

• • Why it’s necessary to uncover limiting beliefs

• • How being a mother shows you where you are managing your experiencing vs just experiencing

• • Why you are not the extreme versions of yourself

• How practicing whole traditions leads to wholeness

Links

• • CLOSED // Go deep on a 3-month journey into shadow work with Nikki Silvestri at http://www.nikkisilvestri.com/shadowlab // Applications close July 2, 2018

• • Connect with Nikki and her Soil and Shadow offerings through her website at http://www.nikkisilvestri.com/

• Follow Nikki on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/nikki_silvestri/